The million-dollar question asked by a client, and the honest answer from Carles and Angela.
The other day, after finishing a session, a client looked us in the eyes and, very cautiously, asked the question that many think but few dare to ask:
“Listen… you two are a couple. You love each other. But every day you work touching naked bodies, moving sexual energy, and connecting intimately with other people. How do you handle it? Don’t you feel jealous? Don’t you feel that this is, in some way, being unfaithful?”
The question is legitimate.
From a traditional view of relationships—where touch, the body, and sexual energy are the exclusive property of the partner—what we do might seem crazy.
But for us, the answer is clear and serene.
And today we want to share it, because we believe it helps to understand not only our work but what love, loyalty, and conscious fidelity really are.
The difference between “Consuming” and “Serving”
This is the keystone.
When a person is unfaithful in a conventional relationship, they often do it to consume: they look outside for what they feel is missing inside—pleasure, validation, novelty, excitement. They seek to take something away.
When we are in our workspace, we do not enter to consume anyone. We enter to serve.
- Carles does not touch a body to excite himself. He touches to hold and sustain.
- Angela does not connect with a man’s emotion to fall in love with him. She connects to guide him.
Our sexual energy is there, yes. We feel it, yes. But we do not put it at the service of our personal desire. We are channels. Energy passes through us to accompany, unblock, and heal, but we do not “keep” it.
Therefore, there is nothing we are taking away from our partner. We take nothing home, beyond the satisfaction of a job done with love and presence.
Intimacy has many layers
Therapeutic intimacy is often confused with romantic intimacy.
In the room, we experience deeply intimate moments with clients: vulnerability, emotion, tears, vital sexual energy in its purest state. And yes, this is sacred.
But the intimacy we share, the two of us, is in a different league.
Our intimacy is built on:
- The shared life project.
- The complicity of glances that only we understand.
- The refuge we are for each other when the day ends and we close the door.
What we share with clients is sacred, but it is transitory.
What we share with each other is sacred, and it is root.
Jealousy is not denied: it is worked on
We would be liars if we said that never, in all these years, have we felt a twinge of insecurity. We are human.
The difference is what we do with it.
Tantra has taught us not to project or forbid, but to take responsibility for what we feel. Instead of saying “don’t do that,” we say “when that happens, I feel insecure.”
We talk. We listen to each other.
We both have powerful energy, and also a very clear place within the bond:
- Carles knows that his base, his rock, is Angela.
- Angela knows that her soul connection is with Carles.
Jealousy is born from the fear of being replaced.
When you know who you are and what place you occupy in your partner’s heart, you understand that no one can replace you, because what we do at work is not looking for a partner: it is offering presence.
Why does this enrich our relationship?
Far from separating us, working with other people’s sexual energy has united us more.
Because it forces us to be clean. We cannot afford hidden resentments, toxic silences, or unresolved issues. The energy wouldn’t allow it.
Seeing your partner in their role as a healer—seeing how Carles sustains with such nobility or how Angela guides with such intuition—does not awaken jealousy, it awakens admiration.
We are not unfaithful, we are free
Fidelity, for us, is not “locking the body” away.
Fidelity is keeping alive the agreement to care for the bond that unites us.
When we work, we are faithful to our life’s purpose: to accompany and serve.
When we arrive home, we are faithful to our love.
We understand that, from the outside, it may seem complex. But from the inside, when lived with consciousness, transparency, and without double intentions, it is one of the cleanest acts of love that exists.
Thank you for asking brave questions.
Brave questions deserve honest answers.
Carles & Angela
Tantra Energy · Presence, touch, and consciousness
