By Carles & Angela · Massage therapists · Girona
There’s a question almost everyone asks themselves before coming for the first time, and that very few dare to say out loud:
“But what actually happens in there?”
It’s a legitimate question. And it deserves an honest answer.
Because around Tantra Energy massage there is so much confusion, so many misunderstandings and so much projected fantasy, that the reality, which is far richer and far less scandalous than some imagine, ends up buried under a layer of prejudice.
Today we dig it out.
Before anything begins: how we prepare ourselves
A session doesn’t start when the person lies down on the table. It starts much earlier.
Before each session, we take a moment to connect with each other. We breathe. We set an intention. We make sure we are present, not on autopilot, not with our minds somewhere else.
This might seem like a minor detail. It isn’t.
When we work with someone’s body, they perceive far more than we might think. They notice whether we are truly here or only half-present. They sense whether our hands carry warmth or just mechanics. The body doesn’t lie.
That’s why our preparation isn’t technical, it’s energetic. We read the space, adjust the temperature, the scent, the music. We settle into a state of presence that, when we do it right, the person begins to feel from the moment they walk through the door.
The first minutes: the conversation that changes everything
When someone arrives, we don’t start with the massage. We start by talking.
Not an interrogation, not a medical form. A real conversation: how are you, what brought you here, how does your body feel today, is there something you’d like to work on, or something you’d rather we leave alone.
This conversation has an effect that often surprises people: it relaxes them. Because many people arrive carrying an invisible tension, the tension of not knowing exactly what’s going to happen. When we speak openly, when we lay everything on the table, that tension dissolves.
It’s also the moment when we establish the frame. Not as a cold contract, but as a conversation between adults who respect each other. At any point you can say stop. At any point you can ask for more pressure, less, something different. At any point you can cry, laugh, make noise, or stay in complete silence.
Nothing is judged here.
The body: what we touch and how we do it
Tantra Energy massage works with the whole body. There are no zones excluded in principle, but there are also no zones touched automatically or without awareness.
We usually begin with the back, shoulders and neck. Areas where tension accumulates and where the body starts to yield with relative ease. We use warm oil, varying pressure, rhythms that shift from slow to deep.
As the body opens, we go deeper. The legs, the glutes, the abdomen, the chest. Areas that in other massage contexts are skipped or treated with clinical distance. We touch them with the same attention and the same presence as the rest of the body, because the body has no hierarchy.
The genital areas can be worked if the person wishes and expresses this. It’s not an add-on, nor something that is assumed. It’s an option that is discussed, decided freely, and when it happens, it is always framed within energetic work, not sexual gratification.
The difference between a therapeutic touch and a sexual touch isn’t always obvious from the outside. From the inside, from the one giving and the one receiving, it is absolutely clear.
What happens emotionally during the session
This is where things get interesting. And where many people have surprised themselves.
The body holds memory. Chronic tensions that have been in the same place for years. Emotions that haven’t found an outlet and have settled in as physical hardness. Past experiences that the body remembers even when the mind has decided to forget them.
When hands reach certain places with the right presence, some of these things begin to move.
Sometimes it’s subtle: a deep sigh, a sudden release, the sensation that something stuck is finally letting go.
Sometimes it’s more intense: tears that come without apparent reason, unexpected laughter, an emotion you can’t quite place but that is real and needs to be expressed.
We are not frightened by any of this. On the contrary, it’s exactly what we’re looking for. A body that can express what it feels is a freer body. And accompanying that moment, without rush and without judgement, is one of the most beautiful parts of our work.
What we don’t do is interpret. We are not psychologists and we don’t pretend to be. If emotions arise, we accompany them. If the person wants to talk about them, we listen. If they prefer to stay in silence and simply feel, we respect that.
What the person receiving feels
It’s hard to describe in words, because it is essentially a bodily experience. But what people tell us, when it’s over, follows certain common threads.
A different sense of weight. As if the body were more theirs than before they walked in.
A slowness that isn’t tiredness. As if time had softened.
Sometimes, a surprise: “I didn’t know my body could feel like this.” Or: “I’d forgotten I had this part of my body.”
And often, a certain vulnerability. Not weakness, but the vulnerability that comes from having shown up truly, from having let someone accompany you in an intimate place, and having discovered that nothing bad happens. That, in fact, something very good does.
After leaving: what nobody tells you
The session doesn’t end when the person gets up from the table.
There is an integration process that continues for hours, and sometimes days, afterwards. The body has been through something, and it needs time to process it.
Some people leave in a state of deep calm, almost drowsy, as if they’ve just woken from a very long sleep. Others leave with an energy they weren’t expecting, wanting to move, to talk, to do things.
Some people write to us the next day to tell us they slept differently. That they had vivid dreams. That they finally had a conversation they’d been putting off for months. That they cried in the car on the way home without quite knowing why, but feeling it was necessary.
All of this is normal. All of this is welcome.
What we always recommend is that in the days that follow, you be generous with yourself. Drink water. Rest if you can. Don’t fill your diary straight afterwards. Let what happened settle into place.
To close: the question you can now ask yourself
Now that you know what really happens on the table, the question is no longer “but what actually happens in there?”
The question is a different one: are you ready to come?
You don’t need to answer yes today. But if something in this article has resonated, if you’ve read a sentence and thought “that’s what I need”, we invite you to get in touch. No commitment. No rush.
We’d love to welcome you.
Carles & Angela lomilomimassage.cat · lomilomigirona@gmail.com Message us on WhatsApp Girona & Costa Brava · Individual, couples and home sessions available
